this history of VD…..

It was the third century in ancient Rome when the Roman Empire was ruled by Emperor Claudius, now known as “Claudius The Cruel”. With mounting pressure from other empires of the time, Claudius needed his army to be bigger and stronger. As the egotist he was, Claudius expected that young men would flock to volunteer as loyal soldiers.

But Love Was Much Too Strong

Many Roman men were growing tired of the endless wars and spawned by love of family, wives and sweethearts, men grew progressively reluctant to go away to battle. So the volunteer army began to dwindle.

Claudius Became Furious

Claudius decided that if men were not married, they would be more likely to join the army. So he outlawed marriage and created penalties of severe punishment for those that violated the new anti-marriage law.

The Priest Valentine Took Up The Cause

Valentine began to secretly marry couples that fell in love. Marriage ceremonies were whispered under candlelight as everyone listened for the steps of Claudius’ soldiers seeking out violators. Valentine was finally caught and sentenced to death. He stayed cheerful and committed to the cause as he awaited his execution date. Young people in love came to visit him and left gifts, flowers and notes. One of these people was the daughter of a prison guard who allowed her to visit Valentine in his cell. She was blind and Valentine gave her comfort as they spent hours just sitting and talking.

The Day Valentine Was Executed

On February 14, 269 A.D. Valentine died. But before he died, Valentine left his friend a little note thanking her for her friendship and loyalty. He signed it “Love from Your Valentine”.

Thus Was Born Valentine’s Day

Eventually Valentine was Sainted by the Pope and became St. Valentine. The note he left his friend began the custom of exchanging love messages on St. Valentine’s Day. Although differing customs and traditions were born over time, Valentine’s Day is still officially observed on February 14 every year. St. Valentine became the Patron Saint of Lovers.

AND THAT, MY FRIENDS….IS YOUR VALENTINES DAY MOMENT.

how to survive another holiday without your loved one…

 I won’t pretend.  It’s difficult.

Most of you know that I lost my little valentine on May 12, 2003.  Clay was my handicapped son that was 15 1/2 years old when he left my arms and began a NEW life in the arms of Jesus.

Holidays take on a new dimension when you have lost a loved one.  Sometimes I feel guilty about celebrating,  but then I remember that he is celebrating and would want his family to do the same.  You might feel overwhelmed on Valentines Day when every store you go into is bombarded with heart shaped boxes,  chocolate roses and other little reminders of love, but this day doesn’t have to be about mourning and sadness.

I am all for taking time out to grieve, but also take time to remember your loved one and celebrate his or her memory!  If it’s not ‘too heavy of an idea’, then maybe you could take time to pull out scrapbooks and photo albums and remember all the good times you had together.  Remind yourself how your valentine made you smile, and how he/she made you laugh.

But most of all……give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you are feeling.  Are you sad?  Then go ahead and cry.  Allow yourself to feel sad or even vent, if you need to.  Don’t feel that you have to act a certain way so as not to upset others.

But also…..don’t forget the living!  Who has been left behind?  Do you have other children or family members?  Honor them!  Let them know that you haven’t forgotten them and remind them how important they are to you.  And please don’t compare yourself to others.  Everyone experiences grief differently.  Allow yourself to have some time of grief and then get back to your life.

“Go after a life of love as if your life depended on it – because it does.” ~ 1 Corinthians 14:1 (The Message)

love…explained by children…


* “When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth.” (Billy – age 4)

*”When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.  So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too.  That’s love”  (Rebecca  – age8)

* “Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” (Karl – age 5)

* “Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” (Chrissy – age 6)

* “Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” (Terri – age 4)

* “Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” (Danny – age 7)

* “Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.” (Bobby – age 5)

* “If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend whom you hate.” (Nikka – age 6)
* “Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” (Noelle – age 7)
* “Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” (Tommy – age 6)

* “My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.” (Clare – Age 5)

* “Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken.” (Elaine – age 5)

* “Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.” (Chris – age 8)

* “Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.” (Mary Ann – age 4)

* “I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” (Lauren – age 4)

* “I let my big sister pick on me because my Mom says she only picks on me because she loves me. So I pick on my baby sister because I love her.” (Bethany – age 4)

* “When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” (Karen – age 7)

* “Love is when mommy sees daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.” (Mark – age 6)

* “You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.” (Jessica – age 8)

* “There are two kinds of love. Our love. God’s love. But God makes both kinds of them.” (Jenny – age 4)

 re-posted from 2011

the way of love…

Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.

Love doesn’t strut,

Doesn’t have a swelled head,

Doesn’t force itself on others,

Isn’t always “me first,”

Doesn’t fly off the handle,

Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,

Doesn’t revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering truth,

Puts up with anything,

Trusts God always,

Always looks for the best,

Never looks back,

But keeps going to the end.   ~  1 Corinthians 13:7-9