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Rules for the caregiver…

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Being a caregiver is not an easy job.  It means putting someone else’s needs before your own.  It means becoming selfless.

Paul wrote in Philippians 2:4, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

I was a caregiver for 15 1/2 years with my son, Clay.  I remember (far too many times) doing things robotically, failing to really see him.  Hurrying to finish one task so I could finish more.  Sigh….

So, I’ve come up with some guidelines to be sure we are ‘looking to the interests of others’ and not just checking off a box on our To Do List.

1.  SHOW UP – Really be there. Are you listening to your child?  Start your day fresh.  Begin with prayer and ask the Holy Spirit to show you their needs.  Are you rushing through your duties?  Pay attention to what you are doing and drop your phone, in fact, drop everything.  Put your needs aside and remember you are on their schedule, not yours.  Watch their body language.  You, as their mother and caretaker, know them better than anyone.  You could possibly be their only mode of communication with others so you need to be ready to voice their concerns.  If you are texting, or checking what someone had for lunch on Instagram, you are going to miss a special time with your child.

2.  CHECK YOUR MIRRORS – I’m sure you’ve noticed on your car door mirrors the sign that reads, “Objects are closer than they appear”.  Let’s go with that for a minute.  Have you checked your mirrors?  What about your face…what about your body language? What does your face say when your little one needs you in the middle of the night….again? Are you walking into their room with anger because you’re not sleeping?  Guess what?  They aren’t sleeping either.  Don’t you think that a quality night of sleep is something they want too?? For children with special needs the difficulty is compounded by their limited control over their bodies and problems with communication.  Try to empathize.  They are looking to you, their mother, their caregiver for help.  Does your face show anger?  Stop. Is that the look you would want to see when you are in pain or afraid?  Pray with your little one and remind him that Jesus loves him and will never, ever leave him.  Let him feel the sense of peace that has overtaken your mind and spirit.  The way you relate to him will influence how well he can cope with his own fears.  In Luke 12:6 Jesus says that God doesn’t forget even a single sparrow – How much more does He care for us?  Our circumstances – our child – our life has been ordained by God.  God does nothing…or allows nothing…without a purpose.

3.  CLEAN OUT YOUR CLOSET  – Get rid of anger, impatience, and other respectable or subtle sins.  Worry is a sin.  I know, it doesn’t seem like a very big sin….but sin is sin.  I also know that as a mother of a special needs child, it is very easy to worry about their future and what would happen to them if you were not around.  I get it.  But there are ways to insure your child can have the best care if you were, let’s say, unavailable… It is going to take a bit of work, but trust me.  THIS is important.

Begin with a daily schedule.  Write down every single thing you do starting with  walking into their bedroom in the morning (do you sing to him when you see him?  Are you the mom that says, “Wakey, wakey, eggs and bakey”??) Write it down!  That may be the little something that your child looks forward to each morning!  Do you open the blinds?  Write it down!  At bathtime, do you lay his clothes out on the bed or take them into the bathroom?  Does he help with his bath or brushing his teeth?  Does he like a little, tiny speck of toothpaste and  can he comb his own hair?  See?  These are little things that you do each day and probably do a bit robotically.  The point is that someone else needs to be able to walk into his room and do these things exactly as you do them.  These small things can be the difference between a good and bad day for your little one.  Keep his daily schedule in a folder to make it easy for someone to take your place in case you are sick or gone.  Yay!  One less worry!

4.  STORE UP SUPPLIES – Memorize scripture!  This is our ammunition against:

a) discouragementJohn 14:1, “Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in me.”

b) worry  – 1 Peter 5:7, “Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.”

c) lonelinessPsalm 147:3, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

d) depression2 Corinthians 1:3-4, Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”

Play Christian music.  Let God’s peace rule in their hearts!  There are beautiful CD’s of Scripture Lullabies that can be played throughout the day.  Where loud, chaotic music can excite and frustrate little ones, peaceful scripture music can soothe.  And you are putting God’s Word in their hearts!

Read your Bible out loud to your child.  Children love stories and Bible stories have such truth about God and how much He loves little children.  When you are filling your cup (which is almost always empty) you are filling theirs too.  Enjoy the nearness of God.

5.  TURN ON THE LIGHTS – Reflect Jesus!  Be an encourager because everyone loves praise!  Tell your special child how he has the sweetest smile and tell him why you love him so very much! Remind him that as much as you love him, Jesus loves him even more!  Read Psalm 139 and let him know he is “fearfully and wonderfully made.”

How much time does your little one spend in his room?  Open the curtains, clean up the room and make it a relaxing place to be.  Place all the little stuffed animals and bright toys where he can reach them.  Use a laundry basket on the floor so they can also be picked up easily and placed back inside.  Does your child love flowers?  Don’t wait for a special occasion.  Place colorful, happy flowers in a vase where they can be easily seen.  If you don’t have access to fresh flowers, cut them out of magazines to paste in a book or on the wall where he can see them.  The important thing is to have a clean, joyful room; a room where he feels safe, loved and protected.

6.  LIFT WEIGHTS – Get rid of anger and get rid of guilt.  As mothers, we are very prone to those guilty feelings of “its my fault”, or “if only” thoughts.  Don’t be paralyzed by your past.  It’s over.  It’s done.  Let’s move on.  Give thanks in all circumstances.  Ephesians 5:20 says, “always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Guilt means you’ve done something wrong.  We all have some sort of guilt over something we did or didn’t do in our past.  That’s why we see so many people turn to alcohol, drugs or some other ‘numbing’ vice.  Our desire is to push it back and forget it somehow.

The effects of guilt are toxic.  The last thing we want to do, as mothers, is project any of our guilt onto our little ones.  Here are some examples of the effects:

  • feelings of rejection
  • projection of your feelings onto other people
  • inability to say no
  • depression
  • anxiety
  • blame shifting…etc.

Until we truly understand what Christ did for us 2000 years ago – we will never be set free!! Jesus paid the price for that sin and you don’t have to live under that condemnation!  (Read Romans 3:9-11, 24, and 27.)  Understand your wrongs and accept God’s forgiveness.  He is extending grace and mercy to you, and once you ask Him for forgiveness, in the spirit of Frozen, LET IT GO! When it comes back to mind, take it as an opportunity to thank God again for this gift of forgiveness.  Satan would love to keep throwing this back at you – but as Daughters of the King, we have His grace, His mercy and His forgiveness.  You don’t need to keep asking for forgiveness for the same sin over and over.  Have you ever been with someone that re-hashes the same old, tired story over and over?  Imagine what God is hearing when we keep bringing up our same old, tired story to Him!  One and done, people!!

When you realize the forgiveness that comes with being a Christian and accepting Him into your life, you can stand taller…..you can smile longer….and you will have a light about you that no one can put out!  THAT is what your child needs to see!!  THAT is what you want to see in your mirror each morning and that is something your family needs to see also.  When we pair our positive thoughts and ideas into our children about their importance and about God’s love and forgiveness, we will change.

Simple rules.  Undying love.

 

 

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His Voice…

 

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What kind of heartache could make God cry?  What sort of wound so deep that His power would not, or could not, lessen?

Who in this world is so precious to Him that His longing heart would yearn to see?

Who is this sweet soul?

Is it you?

Does our sovereign God in heaven long to hear your voice?

Revelation 3:20 “Behold, I stand at the door, and knock:  if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.”

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One day, God will call forth your soul to see what you have done with the many gifts He has given you.  Just you and God…..looking into His eyes….no one nearby to blame or give an excuse.

Don’t waste another moment.  Don’t think you can wait until the last minute…there may not be a last minute.  He wants to bless you now…don’t let that ‘last moment’ find you unprepared.

 

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God knows….

“Behind the dim unknown

Standeth God within the shadows,

Keeping watch above His own”

~James Russel Lowell

(photo taken on our ranch) 

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love and the aww moment…

Think of LOVE and then read below!

Agape Lovesacrificial commitment, dedicated to the well-being of another

Genuine Agape love doesn’t expect love in return.  It is everlasting, unconditional, sacrificial and immeasurable.

Our heavenly Father not only cares for us, but He also cares for His creation!  He blesses us with pets and all kinds of animals so that we may enjoy them and that they, in turn, may enjoy us!

People always ask, “Will my pet be in heaven?”  The Bible doesn’t give any specific reference to this question, however, Isaiah 65:25 says, “The wolf and the lamb will feed together, and the lion will eat straw like the ox, but dust will be the serpent’s food. They will neither harm nor destroy on all my holy mountain,” says the LORD. (NIV)

God’s love is perfect and is everything it can possibly be.  He loves you and He loves His creation.

“We know that in the Bible, ultimate redemption will extend to the whole of creation: i.e. Romans 8:21—‘that the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the glorious freedom of the children of God,’” said Dr. Dale Welden, senior pastor of St. Andrews Presbyterian Church. “I don’t know of a reason it would not extend to animals.” Another example is Luke 3:6, which says, “and all flesh shall see the salvation of God.” In the last book of the Bible, the Revelation, Christ says, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Randy Alcorn, author of Heaven, believes that this extends to animals. In the book, he writes, “Horses, cats, dogs, deer, dolphins, and squirrels—as well as the inanimate creation—will be beneficiaries of Christ’s death and resurrection.” It seems that God meant animals to be part of His world—now and in the age to come.  There are many different theories, however…

Jesus said, “All things are possible to him who believes!”  If you believe that, then get ready for the best animal reunion in Heaven!

Want to be a part of His Kingdom?  Pray along with me!

Father, forgive me for being a sinner. I ask you to cleanse me and I ask Jesus to come into my heart and make me a new creation. Thank you Father for hearing me and loving me. Thank you for your creation and help me to love others the way you love me.  Help me to always live for you, in Jesus’ Name I pray, amen.

I hope you enjoyed the pictures (via Pinterest) ! 

 

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just another bird? I think not…

Creation is a mystery, right?  I mean, as christians, we KNOW that God created all things, but think about it.  There was nothing and BAM!  Heaven and earth!   And that was just the beginning!!  Our little minds say that such an event could not happen, but our faith drives us farther and takes us beyond reason to the beautiful truth of God’s creation.

Check out these birds….Formed in the mind of God, they have such a uniqueness and are a breathtaking example of God’s hand…

1.  Himalaya Monal

2.  Formosan Magpie

3.  Flamecrest

4.  Golden Pheasant

5.  Green Jay

6.  Kingfisher

7.  Lady Amherst’s Pheasant

8.  Bleeding Heart Pigeons

9.  Nicobar Pigeon

10.   Quetzal

11.  Winson’s Bird of Paradise

12.  Peacock

13.  Sup, Polish Chicken

Father God, help me to see the beauty all around me.  Remind me of your love and your grace today and never let me forget how much you love me!

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peace…

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